What to do in the waiting? How to relax instead of judging why you aren't getting what you want now.

What to do when we just aren't getting exactly what we want?  Recently I've been thinking about this a lot.  Sometimes it's crazy the way things just seem to fall into place and I get exactly what I wanted...I'll write a list of the things I want in an apartment, and then I'll find the apartment with everything that I wanted.   Or, I'll imagine the most perfect client and then a few months later they will come to me for help.


It's always different- the timing of things.  Sometimes, I'll say I want something so much and then it just doesn't happen.  That's when I start to wonder- how come sometimes I can manifest stuff at a crazy speed and then sometimes it just seems impossible?


When it comes to food, sometimes I know exactly what I want to eat and I can actually feel the food in my mouth that I am dreaming about.   And then it is the most satisfying thing when I actually find the food and love every minute of chewing and tasting the flavours.  How come sometimes I am so clear?  And then how come sometimes I don't have the faintest sense of what I want to eat?


My soothing, comforting and empowering answer that I give to myself is: When I don't get the things that I want right away, it doesn't mean that they aren't coming.  It just means that there is a process and period of time where things are unfolding.  The only thing that makes me think that it's "not happening" is when my judgements, fears and worries come up.  The second a judgement comes up- "this is taking too long" "why isn't it here yet" "i'm supposed to be better now!" "i really should have it figured out now" - is when I separate myself from the process and the deep knowing and trust that it is happening, it is here, and I do have exactly what I want.


The same goes with knowing what I want to eat.  If I ask myself what I want to be eating, and I get no answer, no clarity, no craving- it's easy to immediately jump into the judgements-  "I can't do this" "I'll never know" "This is so hard."  Doing this, makes it all the more difficult to connect to the my intuitive knowing of what I want to eat.  Because, then I start to focus on the lack, the missing, and the negative.  And that takes my attention away from what I am really wanting to cultivate.


So, what do I do when I am not getting an answer or I am not getting what I want?


Relax.  Oh, baby, just relax.  Do some breathing, take a bath, go for a walk, watch a movie, laugh with friends, play with a dog, get a massage.  Just let your mind relax and release the judgements.


Trust.  Know that it is going to happen and that it is all well.  Know that your body know what it needs and what it wants to eat.  Maybe it just doesn't want anything in particular when you don't get an answer.  Or maybe it is just waiting for you to relax, so that you can receive the answer.



Have fun and move.  Sometimes we need to do something to shift how things are going.  Don't get stuck in the "I don't have it or I don't get it yet."  Keep on movin', go out, meet new people, try new things, take a new class, go to a new cafe, walk a different route.  When we switch up out patterns, we open up the opportunity for new things to come in and new things to cross on our path.


Stay clear on your intention.  Even if you aren't getting what you want at first, do not give up on your vision.  Your vision is what will get you there.  Imagine it, taste it, feel it, breathe it.


Oh, and in the mean time...why don't you make a tart?


Roasted Veggie Almond Tart



Crust: 1/2 cup almond flour 1/2 cup oat flour or flour of your choice 2 Tbsp sesame seeds 1/2 tsp sea salt 2 Tbsp olive oil few tsp water


Filling: 1/2 butternut or kabocha squash 7 asparagus stalks, chopped 1 zucchini, chopped 1 small sweet potato, sliced in thin discs 1/2 red onion, chopped 2 tsp grapeseed oil 1/8 tsp sea salt 2 tsp dried or fresh rosemary 1 tsp dried or fresh thyme 1 cup arugula, chopped


Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 350. 2. Spread the vegetables (except for the arugula) out on a baking dish and toss with grapeseed oil, sea salt, and rosemary & thyme.  Roast for 15-25 minutes, until done. 3. While the veggies are cooking, steam the squash in a small pot.  It takes about 10 minutes for it to be soft. 4. Prepare the crust.  Mix dry ingredients together.  Slowly mis the olive oil in.  Add water gradually to make into a dough.  Press into a circular baking dish. Bake the crust for 5 minutes. 5.  Fill the crust with mashed squash.  Then pour the vegetables over top.  Sprinkle some chopped arugula over top. 6. You can reheat in the oven if desired.